Tips for Survivors:


  • It is not uncommon for individuals and communities as a whole to experience grief reactions and anger after an incident of community violence. Grief is the normal response of sorrow, emotion, and confusion that comes from losing someone or something important to you. Most people will experience a natural occurrence of grief after the death of a loved one, but grief and anger can be the result of other types of losses. In situations of community violence, people may experience the loss of their sense of safety, their trust in those who live in their neighbourhood, or their trust in government. The trauma and grief of community violence can be experienced by all involved.
  • This tip sheet contains information about some of the signs of grief and anger and provides useful information about how to cope with grief. In addition, the
Grief Reactions to Violence
  • Often after a death or loss of some kind, many people express feeling empty and numb, or unable to feel. Some people complain that they become angry at others or at situations, or they just feel angry in general, even without a reason.
  • Some of the physical reactions to grief and anger may include the following:
    • n Trembling or shakiness n Muscle weakness n Nausea, trouble eating n Trouble sleeping, trouble breathing n
  • People experiencing grief may have nightmares, withdraw socially, and may have no desire to participate in their usual activities, work, or school.
How Long Do Grief Reactions Last?

Grief lasts as long as it takes you to accept and learn to live with the changes that have occurred in your community due to the violence and its aftermath. For some people, grief lasts a few months; for others, it may take more than a year. It’s different for each person depending on his or her health, coping styles, culture, family supports, and other life experiences.

What Can Communities Do To Cope With Their Grief?

Often the community needs to come together to honor those who died and find meaning in their deaths in a way that will help everyone in the community recover. People may create a memorial and decide together that this will remind them never to allow such violence in their community again. It may help them be determined to work out their differences in other ways in the future—for example, by forming a community advisory group or identifying a local leader to be their liaison with law enforcement and other government entities.

What Can Individuals Do To
Cope With Their Grief?

Talking to others who understand and respect how you feel— family members, faith leaders, people you trust—is a helpful way to ease your grief. Recognize that although you might still have these feelings over a long period, they will likely be less and less intense over time. Make sure to exercise and eat healthy meals. Do the things that you used to enjoy doing, even if you don’t always feel like it. This will help you get back into your routines. Allow yourself to feel joy at times and to cry when you need to.

Even though they may be experiencing grief, some individuals also exhibit positive changes from their experience of loss, such as the following:

n Becoming more understanding and tolerant
n Having increased appreciation for relationships and loved ones n Being grateful for what they have and for those in their community who are loving and caring n Experiencing enhanced spiritual connection n Becoming more socially active If you have experienced the death of a friend or loved one—or if you have been exposed to community violence—feelings of grief and anger are a normal reaction. But, if these feelings persist, access the resources on this page for more information on getting help.