Listen Provide them with an opportunity to talk about their loss and process it externally. Ask open-ended questions about their loved one, then let them share what comes up. Be careful not to judge or try to fix their problem.
Avoid telling people they should move on – There is no timeline for processing grief, and it can be extremely upsetting and invalidating for a grieving person to feel as though others think their feelings should be resolved within a particular timeframe.
Avoid saying “I know how you feel.” People often think this will generate a feeling of solidarity, but no one can know exactly how another person feels, and it can feel invalidating to be told otherwise.
Ask how you can help Offer to bring food, make dinner or serve them, or help children or elders. Do something that could relieve the others stress. Help arrange the funeral / ceremonies / memorial or religious pray gatherings
Take care of yourself When loss occurs, the crucial and immediate thing you must do it take care of yourself in the aftermath.
Talk with family, friends, community members
Be in nature
Go to a different place, or environment
Remember that everyone deals with grief in their own way; as long as you’re not putting yourself or others in danger, there is no wrong way to grieve.
Think about the lost persons “last wishes”
Understand what shock meansShock is often the first reaction to a tragedy. Shock can be thought of as an extreme psychological reaction to severe stress. It can include emotional numbness, detachment, flashbacks or nightmares of the event, feelings of nausea and weakness, anxiety, and even a fight-or-flight response. But just as grief is a very individual thing, so is shock; some might be “textbook” while others might have their own unique experience with that initial reaction.
Don’t be too hard on yourself if you’re still grieving longer than you think you “need” to. How you grieve, and how long it takes to get through it, is different for each person – and if you suffer more than one loss, you might grieve differently for each one.
Create a routine. It can be resuming an old routine or creating a new one. Either way, having a routine can help relieve some of the grief by providing structure and expectations on a day-to-day basis.
Try to avoid drastic or major life changes for several months after the tragedy.
Find someone to talk to about the loss. Not everyone will benefit from talking to others, but most people will.
Engage in activities that allow you to express yourself. Having a hobby can provide an emotional outlet for your grief and a way for you to express what you’re feeling in unconventional ways.
Forgive yourself: sometimes you feel that you willed the death and are feeling remorseful for not seeing those in recent months, however forgive yourself by acknowledging you cared and loved them to the best of your abilities.
The Symptoms of Grief
As odd as it may sound, sometimes a person isn’t sure they are grieving. They might go about life as normal, wondering why they don’t feel more sadness or pain. Though crying, emotional pain and fatigue are often seen as the hallmarks of grief, some might suffer the loss in entirely different ways.
Here is how grief might present itself after a loss. Remember that grief often has three layers: physical, emotional and social.
Conducted a final external evaluation of the implementation of Geneva Call’s Afghanistan project. Our team developed key research questions, conducted fieldwork in Kabul, and produced a final evaluation analyzing to what extent the organization had mitigated potential impacts of the Covid-19 pandemic on the healthcare of vulnerable populations.
In response to the fall of Kabul, POMA was awarded a $10,000 grant by Choose Love. Our team coordinated with Click.af to purchase, package and distribute aid packages of food and sanitary products to vulnerable families in Kabul. Additionally, we collected and paid electricity bills for families.
During and post- the fall of Kabul, our team coordinated an emergency response to ensure the protection of hundreds of vulnerable children in and around the city. Our response included evacuating vulnerable children, families and women. We coordinated with international development agencies and governments to reunite detained children with their families in preparation for evacuation, and prevented the trafficking of young girls and young boys susceptible to radicalization through mediation. We developed a crisis contingency plan, defining immediate and future needs for child protection agencies.
Guidelines and Quality Standards on legal assistance for children in conflict with the law (CLEAR-Rights Project)
A joint project with Asylex, with our teams collaborating as psychology expert and legal expert, to elaborate on the guidelines and quality standards of legal assistance of children in conflict with the law in Europe. This report will contribute to the ‘CLEAR Rights: enhancing legal assistance for children in Europe’ project, strengthening access to quality and specialized legal aid for minors in Europe.
Training approx. 25 Seefar counsellors in Kabul on providing mental health related guidance to people who have experienced trauma. The organization works with migrants who have migrated primarily with economic motivations, not due to conflict. Our team was only able to complete the first phase of the project due to the change of regimes in Kabul.
Coping with War through God: Islamic-Based Counselling and the Promotion of Peace and Mental Health in Armed Conflicts
Princeton University & Abdul Latif Jameel Poverty Action Lab (JPAL)
Through this pilot study, we will conduct a randomized experiment in Kabul, Afghanistan, to assess the impacts of basic cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) sessions that incorporate Islamic beliefs and are delivered by trained religious clerics. The randomized experiment will examine the role of Islamic-based counseling in helping civilians cope with the adverse psychological effects of war and fostering support for peace and reconciliation.
Developing and coordinating a training program for staff working in the Kabul office, raising awareness of workplace harassment, the psychological effects, and providing management with tools for the establishment of a complaints system.
Developing and implementing a strategic vision for over 400 employees and their areas of responsibility, performing career counselling and acting as a platform for employee concerns. Providing clinical psychological support to employees, psych education to managerial staff, and promoting the overall health and well-being of all employees.
GIZ Airport Study
GIZ (The Deutsche Gesellschaft für Internationale Zusammenarbeit)
POMA’s team has developed methods to respond to the psychological trauma post terrorist attacks throughout Afghanistan and implemented them after several traumatic events in Kabul (Wedding Incident, MSF Hospital Attack, University and School Events).
Reintegration and Repatriation of Children in detention associated with Armed Forces and Groups (ISIS and Taliban)
Strengthening rehabilitation and reintegration services within detentions and care institutions for children and women. Advocated for- and coordinated the release and reintegration of CAAFAG children and their mothers from detention centres in Afghanistan.
Provision of technical advise to a national consultant responsible for conducting a case management capacity assessment across three districts. Development and support for the implementation of a capacity building plan for CPAN and CP actors in Ghor, Afghanistan.
The feasibility study “Strengthening Women, Promoting Peace, Networking Across Countries, Enabling Education: Better Integration of Refugees and Internally Displaced Persons in Host Communities in Pakistan and Afghanistan”, a project funded by TDH Germany (10%) and the BMZ (90%), assesses in borderland geographies of Afghanistan to what extent it is possible to implement measures for improved livelihood and integrated living situations for refugees/returnees and IDPs as well as host communities over the course of five years in the provinces of Nangarhar and Paktika.
De-Escalation Training and First Psychological Care after Stressful Events Training for PME in Afghanistan
Deutsche Gesellschaft für Internationale Zusammenarbeit, GIZ
PoMA entered the project as contracted end. As such our insights, in contrast to the mid-term narrative report provided, offer an overview of implemented projects as well as the implications of the end phase of the project on the beneficiaries as well as implementing partners on the ground in Kabul and Mazar-e Sharif. To provide a deeper understanding on the implementation of project activities in the province of Balkh and Kabul, this section of the report provides an overview of general project activities and discusses challenges and limitations in the evaluation of the implementation of set targets documented.
Psychological Support and Employee Assistance Program
Conducted extensive literature searches using prominent social work and psychology databases on topics including childhood trauma, juveniles, trauma and correctional settings, policy reform, juvenile rehabilitation and laws for juveniles.
Emerging Issues in Juvenile Forensic Evaluation Practice and Policy
An examination in age-based differences in “knowledge” regarding the role of counsel, presumptions about counsel, and maturity of judgment when making decisions about whether to waive the right to counsel, funded by the National Institute of Health. Along with emerging issues for Juveniles Forensics evaluation, practices and policies.
Providing clinical support to staff members working at the Swedish Embassy in Afghanistan.
Deradicalization Committee on Countering Violent Extremism
Office of Chief Executive Impact Evaluation (CEO
Counter Violence committee Development of strategic plan for countering violence National level coordination of committee
-Supporting staff developed the committee and coordinate interventions
-Providing critical perspectives on child protection to committee including sharing research findings and collaboratively strategizing policy solutions to dilemmas of juvenile detention and protection of marginalized groups.
Impact Study and Evaluation of Office of Chief Executive Impact Evaluation (NUG Government) of Afghanistan
Office of Chief Executive Impact Evaluation (CEO)
Impact review OCE office – ministry review all of OCE office – met with all stakeholders Interviewed all ministers in Afghanistan and implemented survey and discussions to see the impact of the
The Juvenile Rehabilitation Center (JRC) project is designed to lessen chances of radicalization among the youth kept in Juvenile Rehabilitation Centers (JRCs) in Kabul. The JRC project aims to provide hands-on psychological rehabilitation and interventions and facilitate other recreational and vocational activities to both female and male youth at the JRCs with the aim of addressing psychological/mental health issues and underlying vulnerabilities which can lead to becoming part of a hostile group – including those espousing radical religious views.Leading a project for the Ministry of Justice aimed at rehabilitating and reintegrating juveniles detained in JRCs in Afghan prisons.
Mental Health Awareness Campaign in Afghanistan Leading a mental health awareness campaign on behalf of the Ministry of Public Health across Afghanistan and spanning a year with multiple messaging channels.
MHPSS Working Group – MOPH Action Against Hunger
ECHO – WHO – ACF – MoPH
https://www.who.int/ , https://moph.gov.af/en
Development of working group MHPSS Afghanistan: Preparation of SOP, Qualifications for PSS Workers, strategize for providers and stakeholders in Afghanistan
Migrants and Asylum Seekers Psychological Aid and Support
Prepare project implementation period through conducting a safety audit visit, training delivery and testing of interview tools. This includes: Support the analysis, key findings and report writing Developing the training materials
Kandahar Critical Incident Psychological Response
Resolution Support – NATO, US AirForce, Northrop Grumman
March 2020 in response to the crash of a U.S. Air force E-11A Battlefield Airborne Communications Node (BACN) aircraft in Kandahar on January 27 2020. Individual and group psychological counselling was provided to deal with grief and trauma which revealed some insight into some ongoing challenges and recommendations for personnel going forward.
Reintegration and Rehabilitation of Children Associated with Armed Forces and Groups (CAAFAG)
Attorney General Office of Afghanistan, Ministry of Juice, National Security Council, Ministry of Labor and Social Affairs
The project aimed at the rehabilitation and reintegration of minors (children under the age of 18) who were detained at the start of November 2019 by the Afghan authorities after being captured in operations against the Islamic State in Khorasan Province (ISKP)/Daesh. The children are family members of Daesh fighters and were detained after the surrender of fighters from that group.
Psycho-Social Support (PSS) interventions in Afghanistan
The core activities proposed will be to develop and conduct a needs assessment, develop PSS toolkits and training packages, and to train emergency teams on basic Psychological First Aid (PFA) principles so that they can incorporate these into their work.
Department of Defense (DoD) combatting trafficking in persons (TIP) training and awareness. PoMA provided culturally sensitive training to 500+ employees to ensure that TIP policies and procedures are implemented.